If you observe carefully, you will find that there are quite a lot of boys who don’t have girlfriends around them, and they generally have some things in common. Is this why many men can’t find girlfriends? Let me give you a detailed analysis one by one:
Why so many men can’t find girlfriends
1. They don’t know what girls want at all
< p> Many boys only give in a self-righteous way and have no idea what girls want. For example, many boys' efforts are not what girls need. Just like if you give her an umbrella when it rains, she will feel that you are very kind to her. But if you still give her an umbrella when it is not raining, she will only feel that you are caring. sick.Another situation is that she is nagging like an old mother. If a girl goes to bed late, she will tell her to go to bed early. If a girl wants to lose weight, she will say that she is like iron rice or steel. If a girl likes to dress up, he will say it is troublesome... Although You do mean well, but girls may not appreciate it. And do you think girls will have a crush on you?
2. The personal framework is very weak
What is a personal framework? In fact, it is your own opinion, and you must be able to play a leading role in getting along with girls. Some boys have very weak personal frameworks. How weak is it? Maybe the girl has been with you for a long time and still doesn’t know what her personality is like. At best, some people would say that these boys have no independent opinions; at worst, they are just licking a dog.
In the process of getting along with girls, the most unique charm of boys is that they are the embodiment of perseverance. Of course, this kind of perseverance does not mean being full of beard and flesh, but having oneself at all times. She has strong opinions and can be the backbone of girls. And some boys, let alone the backbone, are obedient in life, without any personal framework, and will not attract girls at all. Those with better conditions may become cash machines, while those with poor conditions are pure spare tires. .
As a man, you must have a framework for what a man can do and what he cannot do. Don’t just lick the girl endlessly because you think you like the girl. No girl will like such a boy.
3. Talent cannot keep up with vision, and appearance cannot keep up with aesthetics
Some boys always have With an impossible person. That's right, this sentence simply means "I don't have any B-numbers in my heart." There are too many boys who feel good about themselves. That kind of honeyed self-confidence is really annoying and funny. You say he is stupid. The lovers in his dreams are all perfect, but he is not stupid. You say he is smart. There is an impossible person living in his heart, but he is really not smart. Most people are equal in love, a few are downward compatible, and very few are upward compatible.
To put it simply, if you are not qualified to live that kind of life, you are not capable of liking that kind of girl. The monthly salary of ordinary employees in your startup company is 5,000 yuan. Let’s seeBeing a senior executive with an annual salary of one million in the listed company next door is not a realistic thing in itself. Everyone likes Bai Fumei, but before you prepare to take action, it is still recommended to look in the mirror and see what conditions you have, whether you can have common topics with others, and whether there is anything that can attract the other person. Otherwise, just go to sleep.
4. Self-righteous real losers
There are relatively few such people in today's society, but there are few , does not mean there is none. There are some boys who have average appearance, average family background, and average income. If they are thrown into a crowd, they are the kind of people who cannot be found. But when it comes to oral pleasure, it's really not an ordinary level. Wang Sicong's looks are really bad when he opens his mouth. I can get those girls if I work in some companies. But when he shuts up, William Chan is too effeminate. If I had the opportunity like him, I would definitely do better than him.
However, what about their girls? What about their opportunities? Nothing, nothing. If you take a closer look, you will find that many girls will have this one when writing their criteria for choosing a mate: optimism and confidence. And are these boys naturally optimistic? It seems that he doesn't like this or that, he is indeed quite confident. But if we really define it, these boys are typically pessimistic and have low self-esteem.
All confident people will do whatever they like in life, but this is not the case for pessimistic boys. They complain and talk about it every day. They feel that they are not good enough and have nothing to do with themselves. It's all due to bad luck and not having a good father, and bad luck and no opportunity to start a business. This kind of character is not only annoying to girls, but also to girls who are slightly more motivated.
To put it bluntly, there are only a few reasons why many boys cannot find girlfriends. In fact, as long as the facial features are normal and the outlook is not distorted, it is not difficult to find a girlfriend. It is difficult. It's your own inner demon.
I would also like to advise the majority of boys here, if you don’t have a girlfriend now, don’t blame others and give up on yourself, spend some time to improve yourself, study hard when you go to school, work hard to make money, you are capable, and you are destined. It's here.
