If you just fall in love with that state of a relationship, rather than falling in love with her as a person, then the relationship will be difficult to last. So if you want to have a relationship without breaking up, you must first judge whether the other party likes you. At the same time, you must also learn to judge whether you like the other person. So how to judge whether you really like her?
1. Time investment
No matter who you are, you won’t waste time on things that don’t interest you. After all, there are only 24 hours in a day. Two hours will pass just by scrolling through Douyin. In fact, there are only 22 hours in a day.
If you like her, then you will definitely spend a lot of time with her. Maybe it’s because you haven’t played a serious game for a long time since you met her, or even gone out to drink and have fun with your brothers. Judging by the proportion of time you allocate, what position does she occupy in your heart.
Of course, this is only the initial level of investment. If you want to get a little more detailed, analyze the characteristics of the time you spend with her.
For example, you are colleagues, but your chats are limited to work hours. Suppose you take the initiative to talk to her one day, and you are also talking about work.
In this case, you can basically judge that you don’t like her.
Except for those simple and shy boys! Another situation is that you only look for her at night. Then it's probably just that you feel like you have nothing to do and want to find someone to chat with to kill time. Bedtime is considered garbage time. During this time, people usually browse some unnecessary news and jokes at a glance to make themselves fall asleep quickly.
So you can click on your chat history, which contains statistics on the number of days you chatted, to see how often you chat. See when you go to see her.
2. Find ways to understand her
Attention is a relatively difficult dimension to judge, because Out of politeness, both parties will show seriousness and concern when communicating.
If your colleague or friend says that you look distracted when talking to her, check your phone from time to time.
If you have not encountered any major changes, or you have a very important business to discuss.
If neither is the case, it means you don’t like her that much at all.
Although it is difficult to judge your own concentration, it is not impossible. You can judge by the people around you. If you are with her and you never want to take your eyes off her, then it is very likely that you like her.
Also, if you like her and care about her, then you will definitely pay attention to what she has said, the things she likes, the places she wants to go...you will read every social update of hers and find out everything she likes. things to judge whether you can become the object of her liking.
3. Initiative
The initiative here does not refer to taking the initiative to chat, but to promote the relationship. degree of initiative.
It refers to your desire for further intimacy during your relationship with her.
If you like her!
Then after you go out, eat, and watch movies together, you will hope that the relationship between the two people will be upgraded, such as going to your house to watch TV or going to Drinking tea at her house.
If you have been dating her for half a month, but you still only stay at the stage of eating and watching movies, it means that you have no intention of further relationship with her. Of course, the other party may just be afraid to go further because of timidity, inexperience, etc.
4. Sense of immersion
It is said that if you like someone, her shadow will be everywhere in the world. You will mention her to your brothers and friends intentionally or unintentionally, but of course you may not notice it yourself. You even start to imagine the details of your future life with her, who will take care of the children and who will clean the house.
I am willing to bring her into your social circle, introduce her to your brothers and friends, and even bring her to your home to meet your parents. Boys actually have social pressure too.
Once you post a screenshot of a girl’s chat in your circle of friends, it means that you may have lost the opportunity to continue your ambiguity with other girls. If she often appears in your circle of friends, it means you really like her. Unless you are just good buddies.
5. Spend money
I have seen this sentence: Where is a man’s heart, his That's where the money is. I don’t know why, when a boy likes a girl, he always wants to give that girl something, maybe it’s perfume, maybe it’s lipstick. Or maybe just a cup of milk tea.
I remember a boy who borrowed money to spend on his girlfriend when they first fell in love. I told him that his girlfriend worshiped money, and he also explained to her that she rarely asked for gifts because she couldn’t control them. I want to give her something. Of course, I don't advocate that you have to spend money on someone if you like her. It's just that you spend money on her just because you like her.
