Many people think that introverts cannot pursue girls. This view is definitely wrong, because in my opinion, introversion is not a shortcoming, but a characteristic. So regarding the question of how to pursue girls with an introverted personality, in my opinion, we must first start by changing ourselves.
I have met many introverted friends, and their hearts are like this:
1 , I don’t dare to take the initiative to show myself, I don’t like to show myself, I think it’s like showing off, and I usually feel very boring and even disgusted when I post photos in Moments.
2. You always care too much about other people’s opinions.
For example:
When we were in school, everyone had this experience. The teacher explains a question on the blackboard and asks if there are different answers? There is silence below. There are only a few people who agree to do this, and there are not many people who don't agree with it. So, what is it that does not participate in both? Situation? This type of person does not like to express themselves and does not want others to see themselves. Most of them are introverts.
Because he is afraid that if his views are wrong and different from others, he will lose face. He would rather follow the crowd than do something that can reflect himself.
3. Not good at expressing and like to be alone
In gatherings with classmates, you usually refuse to participate. Even if you go to participate, everyone is talking and laughing, and you are always by the side. , playing with your phone silently, not liking to communicate with others, the happier they are, but the more frustrated you will be, not liking to talk, let alone taking the initiative to sing.
4. When you can chat in front of acquaintances, strangers will be on guard
People have a natural defense against unfamiliar things. In front of strangers, they should be respectful and fearful. Fear of feet.
In front of familiar people, he seems to be a different person, chatting without warning. Introverted people are actually very kind at heart, but they are not good at expressing themselves.
Seeing this, many friends will definitely complain, then aren’t introverts attractive?
< p> Yes, of course there is. The first step, whether you are dating or doing work, the basic thing you must do is to adjust your mentality.1. Adjust your mentality
Since you know that you are an introvert, then face yourself seriously and don’t avoid this matter. Introversion is not terrible, and there are many introverts. , you are just one of them.
Introversion is not a shortcoming, so why should we feel panic and fear? Introversion is not a shortcoming, it is a characteristic.
There is no such thing as good or bad character, only what are the characteristics. Only you think your characteristics are disadvantageous and unlovable.If you are disgusted, then your characteristics are really the so-called shortcomings.
2. Learn to show yourself bravely
Is it a big mistake to only be nice to girls?
You know, be nice to her, Anyone with hands and feet can do this. Ask yourself if you really have the qualities that she does not get from others but that you possess alone.
A beautiful girl has no less than a few suitors, and people who are good to her are lining up. You have no advantage.
What girls really want is to be happy with you + to have a good impression of you.
Then, one of the conditions to solve when learning to show yourself is attraction.
You cook well, but you don’t dare to show it off. How do people know that your cooking skills are so good?
You can play the piano yourself, but you don’t dare to show it off. How do you know that you also know how to play music and are versatile?
If you are good at fitness and don’t dare to show your fitness photos, how do you know about your high-quality life?
Note that display is not Showing off, showing off makes people annoying.
3. Get out of the comfort zone
People like to be lazy, not moving, and enjoy themselves the most Sometimes, you are not willing to change yourself. Since you know that it is not easy for introverts to pursue the people they like, you should take the initiative to change yourself.
If you don’t dare to communicate, take the initiative to go out and communicate with strangers.
You don’t want to go to the event. This time you take the initiative to participate in the event, making yourself feel painful and uncomfortable.
You are not willing to show yourself. This time, take the initiative to show yourself and step out of your comfort zone.
Human progress is all about breaking through one pain, moving to another comfort zone, and then breaking through another pain.
4. Record, every step is worthy of applause
You find that you are becoming more and more brave and proactive. Things that you didn't dare to do in the past, now feel that you can do them for granted. This is when you are going uphill.
Finally, I want to say, as long as you bravely take this step, are you still worried about not being able to catch up with girls?
