When going on a blind date, you may meet a girl who has no interest in you, does everything in a perfunctory manner, and is as cold as an iceberg. What is going on?
In fact, a large number of these girls come for blind dates not because they are anxious to get married, but because their families are anxious. She may have her own emotional plans, but her parents couldn't wait to get her on a blind date and got married, so they forced her to go on a blind date. In order to let her parents "quiet" and not disturb her life, she had to deal with it.
Therefore, since others come with a coping attitude, no matter whether you are of high value or excellent, you will naturally appear very cold. In fact, it has been destined from the beginning that this blind date will be a cold one. failed.
But if this girl happens to be the girl you like and you don’t want to give up on her, how should you pursue her?
< p> First, take the initiative to cut offWhen you realize that a girl has this kind of mentality, try to "confess" to her that you are not really willing to go on a blind date, just to deal with your family.
No matter whether a girl is doing it to deal with her family or not, when she sees you saying this, she will take advantage of it and admit that she is just like you and will use this step to interrupt the date.
Since the girl admits it, let’s take the initiative to cut off the date:
“Then we’ll stop here today. Anyway, we are dealing with each other’s parents, so let’s show it to them. ”
Then make an invitation outside the scope of blind dates
“Let’s add WeChat first, and then we can make a few token appointments and then go back and say it’s not appropriate. . ”
Using this method can reduce the possibility of the girl rejecting the next invitation, because she does have to meet the needs of the family.
In the next invitation, the girl’s resistance to you will not be as high as the first time, because the first time she was forced to come. But now, she takes the initiative to go to the appointment, and her attitude towards things is different in different moods.
On the first date, she comes with resistance. If you show high value, she will be seen as showing off; if you show humor, she will be seen as talkative. In short, if a girl doesn't want to come over, it's useless whatever you do. If you do too much, you'll be wrong, but if you don't do anything, it's good.
The second time she took the initiative to go to the appointment, she was in a relaxed mood, and even because of your frankness, she thought you were a friend worth dating.
At this time, if you show her your value, humor and other qualities, you can be easily accepted by her, and she will gradually be attracted to you.
In order to show your value, you must not give girls the impression that you have to go on a blind date because there is no market.
So on the second date, you can call your friends.
The best group of friendsTogether: a wingman, and then ask the wingman to bring a friend of the opposite sex.
This will give the girl the illusion that you are not dating her specifically, but are playing with her as a friend, minimizing the pressure caused by your need for her.
In addition, due to the first upset, there will be some awkwardness between the two people. If there are more people, the content of our date and play will be enriched, which can eliminate embarrassment to the greatest extent and build attraction better.
No matter how we meet a girl, as long as we want to get along with her, we must improve our relationship.
After discovering that a girl is interested in you, you should promptly reveal to her that you are also attracted to her.
Because although a girl is interested in us, she will not take the initiative to show her desire for us (forget about letting girls on a blind date take the initiative to express their love, not to mention that girls are reserved to begin with, let alone the first time) The meeting is not so pleasant. )
After we take the initiative to show our affection, we can encourage girls to change their interest in us from the dark to the open.
But after a girl gets to know a boy on a blind date, she has a doubt about the progress of the relationship:
Sometimes she refuses your relationship improvement and physical movement, which does not mean that she is interested in you. I'm not interested, but I'm thinking: What will my family and friends think if I get to be with you directly after I met you?
Women are so strange, especially girls who have been on an involuntary blind date. They must have struggled before. , and ended up getting together with you after seeing you twice.
Doesn’t this mean that you are telling your family that your previous resistance was just a pretense, saying that you don’t want it, but your body is quite honest?
So when a girl faces you, It will be very tangled when moving the limbs.
Sometimes she would rather meet a boy secretly and then be together instead of dating you openly.
Therefore, in this case, the most taboo thing is hesitation. As a man in a blind date, he must be aggressive. When the relationship between her and us heats up...
Finally, push forward decisively, Confirm the relationship with practical actions.
For a girl on a blind date, there is no turning back. Once she has physical contact such as kissing and hugging you, it is equivalent to giving her a relationship lock from family and friends.
Because doing this is equivalent to admitting that I am with you. If I say it is inappropriate after a few days, others will think that I am very casual and wanton.
Why do many parents force their children to go on a blind date? Isn’t it because they are bound by traditional concepts, and they are also afraid that the people around them will be mean-spirited and gossip.
So after a girl has had this kind of substantial contact with you, she has subconsciously regarded herself as your significant other.
At any time, we must take the initiative and make riceIt's considered done even if it's cooked halfway through.
When facing a blind date girl who has a window, decisively advance the relationship and take the initiative in your own hands.
