Many boys are complaining that they have no money, no appearance, and are not worthy of love. But in fact, the reason that prevents a boy from being single is not these factors from beginning to end, but that the boy is not brave enough.
You must know that love is not something you deserve only when you reach your best state. Let’s talk in detail below about why boys shouldn’t wait until they become good before falling in love.
1. What exactly is excellence?
Let’s first talk about this excellence and what excellence means.
The reason why we want to become excellent is that we feel that we are not good enough now, just average.
But have you ever thought about it, you think your current state is average, but it may be the peak of your life.
Don’t worry, friends.
I’m not saying you can’t do it, because it’s generally the norm in our lives.
Ever since we were young, there has always been a kind of person around us who refuses to listen in class and plays games after class.
After the exam, you looked confused, what? He got 97?
Yes, in our opinion, some people can achieve good results without putting too much effort. , and they are called "other people's children."
If you insist that I am much better than Xiao Ming next door, your mother will say, why don’t you compare yourself with someone who is better, and compare yourself with someone who is worse?
In the end, Xiao Ming’s mother said the same thing about you.
It’s almost the same, everyone will be unconvinced, and those who are much better than themselves will have no temper at all.
In fact, most of us are pretty much the same, so there is no need to care so much.
2. Time waits for no one
Let’s talk about the second point. If you become excellent, will you miss it? .
If you like a girl now and you chase her, there will be two results, acceptance and rejection. The probability is fifty-fifty, Schr?dinger's pursuit.
At this time, some friends may say: "When I become better and pursue her again, the probability of being together will definitely increase."
Friends , your equation is obviously wrong, because you have not considered that there are many variables in the process of becoming excellent.
One plus two equals three, one becomes three, three plus two, the result becomes bigger. But in reality, this question is actually more like: "You and the girl are 100 meters apart. The girl can walk one meter a day, and you can walk two meters a day. You both start in the same direction at the same time. This Then you have to spend two months buying a bicycle.”
Then the problem comes, there is another big brother who drives a small car.A tricycle passed by a girl, could she get on?
When you went to buy a bicycle, the girl got on someone else's tricycle. You changed your mind to buying a small three-wheeler, and the girl got into someone else's Lamborghini again.
Eh? At this time, some friends will say: "I tried hard, but I didn't catch up with the girl in the end. At least I have a Lamborghini."
At this time, you may encounter A girl doesn't like Lamborghini anymore. What she wants more is the way you run towards her with all your strength.
In relationships, timing is often more important than your conditions.
3. Don’t overestimate your own will and determination
The last point may be a little tricky to say. Heart. That is, can you really persist in becoming excellent?
You must know that becoming excellent is actually a long-term process, just like fitness and reading, it is difficult to persist.
Some friends may have said: "No, I will be motivated if I really like this girl."
Yes, when feelings come, I just want to become good. After two days, I thought, forget it, I don’t like her that much anymore.
It’s like taking a test when I was in school. After the score comes down, I have to change my ways, study hard, and then buy a lot of tutorial books.
Three days later, study, what does it mean? What does reading mean?
One month later, I will take the mock test. I will study hard and then buy a bunch of tutoring books. After the exam, everyone competes with the top students, and before the exam, they compete with the low-ranking students.
Although we cannot judge whether we can really become outstanding in ten years.
But we can think back to the girl we liked before.
At first, I felt that I was not good enough and not worthy of others, so I didn’t dare to pursue her.
But after a few years, have you discovered that it doesn’t matter whether you are good or not, because you don’t like her that much anymore?
Simply saying that you like someone means nothing. It doesn’t take much effort, but it really takes determination to become great for someone.
So, when love does not hit you, please be fully prepared to accept it better when it comes.
But if you are not ready yet and love has already hit you, then just fall down and take advantage of the situation. The first step is to touch the porcelain and then decide whether to pay or not.
I understand that some friends want to become excellent because they hope to give the girl they like a better future.
Yes, responsibility is something worth encouraging and upholding.
It’s not that you have to be good to fall in love, but a good relationship will make you better.
Go for it boldly and fall in love!
