I believe that everyone hopes to have a long-lasting relationship that lasts to the end. They don’t want to get married just to get married. However, you will only meet a few right people in your life. If you miss them, you will only have regrets. So what method should we use to determine whether the other person is the right person?
First of all, we need to clarify a concept. To find the right person, you must first clarify your core values. Love needs. This need is not material, but spiritual and psychological.
Next, I will talk to you from three aspects, so that you can think about it based on reality.
1. Can give you a sense of security
Why does home bring a sense of security and why the comfort zone is comfortable? , a sense of security represents a stable state. In love, our psychology also needs this kind of stability.
Don’t think that only talented girls value a sense of security. In fact, both men and women value a sense of security.
If your sense of security is based on the other person’s need to express love and possessiveness to you every day, then the most suitable person for you will definitely be the giving type who is willing to take care of your needs and provide satisfaction. Personality.
You need a phone call every day and your partner to be clingy.
If the other person doesn’t find you annoying, but enjoys it, then you will be very harmonious together.
On the contrary, if you are a person whose sense of security comes from maintaining a private space and not being too intrusive, then the above type of partner is not suitable for you.
2. Be able to accept the real you
In front of the other person, you can be yourself naturally, that The real you.
In the early stages of a relationship, everyone will inevitably want to package it appropriately and show off their strengths to build attraction, but it cannot be completely natural.
Therefore, the prerequisite for being a natural person is that you have decided to enter a long-term relationship.
In this relationship, you don’t need to force yourself to cater to the other person’s preferences, and you don’t need to keep your bright side all the time. Your strengths and weaknesses can all be accepted and tolerated by the other person.
In this way, you will have a very enjoyable state. If you feel this way, then you have met the right person.
But if you sense that the other person cannot accept you with flaws, then you hide your bad side and only pretend to be the side that the other person likes.
It seems that you are trying hard to maintain the relationship between the two of you, but in fact you are laying a minefield. You don't know when it will explode, but fate will tell you that sooner or later it will explode. If you can't accept the real you, the other person is not suitable for you.
3. It will make you a different person
When you meet the right person, the other person will make you a different person.
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Before you meet the other person, you may be an introverted and silent nerd, unwilling to communicate, and like to immerse yourself in games, anime, and figurines.
After meeting the other person, But you have new vitality, you become lively and cheerful, you want to hang out with each other, explore some new things, and share the happiness you can feel in life, which will make you feel like the world is as big as before. There are so many possible feelings.
Moreover, the other person can even be inactive and introverted like you. It is not the other person’s personality that infects you, but the other person’s inner vitality.
Your change is entirely out of initiative, and the other person ignites the fire in your heart.
What kind of person is the other person? It's not important, what's important is that a new you was unconsciously created by the other person, and this is the right person.
Of course, the conditions that two people need to meet to be suitable are not limited to these, it is hidden in each other. Every conversation, every detail.
This requires us to carefully understand every word and every action when we are in contact with the other person. Just like that sentence, you can't hide your love for someone. Yes, even if you cover your mouth, it will come out of your eyes
