When you first start chasing girls, you can’t just rush in and out. Appropriate skills and routines are still necessary. So what should you pay attention to when you first start chasing girls?
1. Don’t chat just for the sake of chatting
When many single boys are chasing a girl they like, they want to make the other person feel their presence anytime and anywhere. I always deliberately go to chat with girls, and crazily try to establish my presence in front of girls. In the end, I find that under such an offensive, why do girls become more indifferent?
You know, between people Relationships require mutual consent, and this is especially true for relationships. When chasing a girl, she will not fall in love with you just because you talk to her more than others. On the contrary, if you do too much "useless work", it will do more harm than good to build a good impression between you. There is a term in psychology called "marginal gradual effect", which means that people's novelty will gradually decrease with more frequent contact.
Applied to love, the best relationship upgrade point is very short-lived (when a girl first meets you, it is the time when the attraction is strongest). In my experience, if you date a girl three times and still don't become a boyfriend or girlfriend, the probability of becoming a boyfriend or girlfriend later is very low. This requires you to make good use of the validity period of attraction to achieve an upgrade in the relationship with the girl. Don't wait until the girl doesn't give you a chance and then regret it.
Many brothers feel itchy if they don’t chat with girls, and they have no topic or direction when chatting with girls. You can only refresh your sense of existence by saying "good morning", "good night" and "drink more hot water". This kind of unnutritious topic will not only fail to add points to you in the minds of girls, but will actually deduct a lot of points. When girls receive this kind of news, they frown and look disgusted.
2. Don’t be too humorous
Humor is a plus when chasing girls, but it is not necessary. Options! If the attraction is sufficient, even if you are not a humorous person and you are a cool guy, girls will still be attracted to you and like you.
However, many brothers don’t understand this, and their excessive humor turns themselves into jokes.
Think about it, the eunuch can make the queen look beautiful, will the queen fall in love with the eunuch because of it? Clowns can also make girls laugh, will girls be with clowns because of this?
< p> Humor is just a bonus. If you don’t understand humor, it will not affect your attractiveness. It just so happens that some people often make mistakes without even realizing it. Because excessive teasing leaves the impression on girls that they are not formal and stable. Moreover, when you try too hard to make a girl laugh, you are already doing it deliberately! This is called "trying too hard"
(try hard). When you try too hard to win a girl's approval, do the oppositeThinking about it, the answer is that you are not attractive. Only if you work hard will girls like you! It shows that you are not an attractive person.
From a practical perspective, excessive teasing will also affect a girl’s obedience to you. If you leave a normal impression on girls, they may still adopt some of your suggestions (such as inviting girls). But if you are a joke, girls will not take your words seriously! Look, girls are naturally obedient. The degree also disappeared because of your teasing.
3. Don’t please too much
Girls hate making deals, and there are often boys in their lives. Give girls flowers, gifts, red envelopes, and work as free labor. But good girls often won't accept such flattery from you. The answer is because you are asking for value in a different direction! Your flattery and dedication have a purpose. You are not doing it unconditionally. You hope to "recover your money" one day. You hope to use "favor debt" to get rid of moral constraints. Determine the other party.
So, please stop being a "good old guy" on the surface and asking for value secretly. This is a big taboo when chasing girls. When dating a girl, be relaxed and happy. Don't try to use favor debt to force the other party to submit, let alone provide value for the purpose of asking for it. Don't spend more than you can afford just to win the other person's favor. A good girl will not accept your "goodness", but a bad girl will take advantage of your "goodness" and make you a bill-payer and a perpetual spare tire.
4. Know how to take detours
When chasing girls, you should not only know how to advance but not retreat. When chasing girls, you need to use devious tactics. There is a law in love science, which I call the "game of the sexes." You can understand it as a kind of tentative behavior about value. This temptation is often reverse thinking.
Attraction works similarly. The high-value party is often the one who responds indifferently, and the low-value party is often the party who tries to please. This potential communication model can often be encountered in life. For example, the communication model between boss and employees, and the communication model between customers and shopping guides.
When chasing girls, the process is similar to this. If you want to gain the other person's approval too much, constantly explain yourself, and over-exhibit yourself, you can feel this communication pattern in the other person's eyes. If you leave it to the other party and you are eager to get the other party and seek the other party's approval, then in the eyes of the other party, it is actually a low-value requesting behavior. Many times you may ruin a good deck of cards in your hand!