Introverted boys have been unable to leave the single world for a long time. In fact, it is not just because they lack the courage, but also because they don’t like to socialize and their social circle is too small. Therefore, if introverted boys want to pursue girls, they must first expand their social circle, and then use the following techniques.
1. The difference between introverts and extroverts
Many people think that introversion means inferiority complex Performance, this is actually a misunderstanding. The reality is that introverts do not necessarily have low self-esteem. But we have to admit that introversion makes introverts more likely to have low self-esteem.
From a physiological perspective, extroverts’ energy mainly comes from the external world, such as through social activities and different situations. They are very energetic and find it difficult to be excited by being alone for long periods of time. Introverts' energy comes mostly from their inner world, thinking and reflection. They are good at conserving energy, but they are easily stimulated and influenced by the outside world, and too much external social interaction makes them feel uncomfortable. Therefore, introverts will limit their social scope and try to avoid self-depletion. Introverts are not necessarily quiet and withdrawn. This is because they pay more attention to their own subjective world and like to reflect and be alone.
Many people like to blame their introversion for their failure in love, as if introversion is the culprit for why a person is not popular with girls. In fact, most people just use introversion as a shield to step out of their comfort zone, and as an excuse for not wanting to succeed.
We have talked about so much, but our core topic is still the growth of love. Our agenda should not be to further shackle introverts, but to help them unburden themselves.
Extroversion, introversion, inferiority complex, and self-confidence are all part of a person's overall personality. Extroversion and introversion are social attributes of personality. Inferiority and self-confidence are different psychological states. We don’t have to force introverts to become extroverts, and introversion has less impact on love.
It does not mean that extroverts are attractive in front of women, but introverts cannot attract girls. In most cases, an introverted and calm person is better than an extroverted and funny person. Charming people do not necessarily like to be lively and talkative. On the contrary, many extreme men can easily become funny men.
2. Take the initiative to develop social skills
But in fact, introverts can definitely pass this point You can make up for it by consciously learning some social skills and getting to know some girls. There are physiological reasons why introverted boys tend to think too much by themselves. Explained from brain biology, the cerebral cortex of introverts is very sensitive, so even less intense external stimulation, will also cause them to have a strong reaction. Therefore, in order to protect themselves, they will avoid the world around them, control their desires or restrict their behavior to reduce the possibility of conflict and harm. Extroverts are just the opposite. Their cerebral cortex is relatively less sensitive, so they need more stimulation from the external environment to overcome the insensitivity of their cerebral cortex.
This kind of overthinking is very beneficial when you get along with girls later, but when you first meet girls, it will make you think too much and make you more nervous. Introverts have advantages that extroverts cannot match. Introverts generally enjoy time alone, care about close friends, behave calmly when participating in activities, and are good listeners. Cooperate well with others at work, especially in one-on-one relationships, be independent, have stronger concentration, self-reflection, sense of responsibility, be creative, analytical, hardworking and smart. Therefore, there are many shining points in introverted boys, and from a long-term attraction point of view, these personality traits are very popular with girls.
3. Cultivate contrasting advantages to attract girls
However, because most introverted boys are not good at words, some excellent qualities It is easy to be ignored by girls, or even mistaken for a nerd or an otaku. It is undeniable that this is indeed an obstacle when chasing girls at the beginning. However, don’t be discouraged. Let me tell you another secret. Once girls find out that this so-called nerd and otaku man has another side to him, they will be unconsciously attracted to him. He attracts them because it is something they never imagined. Moreover, this attraction is often stronger and more solid, which is called a character patch.
For example, let’s say you are an introverted programmer and don’t communicate much with girls. Suddenly one day, the girl discovers that you are a rock climbing expert or a hip-hop expert. She suddenly You will be attracted. I used to be an introvert, but this does not definitely hinder me. If you have a story, identify the QR code and chat with me. If you usually like to wear a suit, you can change it the next time you meet and put on a sunny and handsome casual suit; if you usually wear casual and sporty clothes, you can suddenly change into a formal suit, and the next day, put on another one Leather jacket. This kind of contrast in image is helpful for introverts to attract girls' attention at the beginning.
