The reason why many straight men cannot pursue girls is because when girls need comfort, praise, and encouragement, their thoughts are too simple and straightforward, causing the relationship that has made some progress to stop moving forward or even regress. So how should straight men pursue girls?
In fact, straight men are not at fault. What is wrong is that we cannot please people tactfully. Below, here are two ways for straight men to please girls.
1. Change the way you deal with problems
I know that we boys usually pay more attention to Deal with the results of the problem.
For example, if a friend calls us to eat chicken, our answer in most cases is only "1" or "no".
For example, when a friend asks us to drink, we can choose between "can't do it" and "can't do it".
Being direct and efficient is the usual way for boys to deal with problems, and there is nothing wrong with it.
However, if a girl sends you a similar message:
“I’m so tired at work.”
“It’s so cold today.”
"My stomach hurts."
Does she want to hear our answers like "Yes", "It's very cold" and "Drink more hot water"?
Tell the truth. , there is nothing wrong with these answers, but without attached emotions they will make the other person feel cold.
It has been emphasized countless times that girls pay attention to emotions.
When she complained to us about problems, she actually knew that we could not solve her current practical problems, but they still wanted to get care and feel cared about.
Only in this way can she get psychological comfort to soothe her mood at the moment.
Try this approach, affirm the other person’s feelings + express your own feelings + transfer the other person’s transference.
For example:
Female: “It’s so tiring to go to work.”
Male: “I feel bad. It’s really hard for us as workers in the community, but I think about getting paid. At that moment, I feel satisfied and have motivation again.”
You see, this will give you a little more warmth than a cold response.
So, remember to change the way you handle the problem before replying to her message next time.
There may be unexpected surprises.
2. Focus on details
The so-called details actually mean paying more attention and paying attention to all aspects of her.
For example, remember her menstrual period, during which she refused to eat anything cold.
For example, pay attention to what she is interested in, and at some point we will find out what interests the other person.Interesting things appeared in front of her.
For example, pay more attention to some of her subtle changes. Hair style, lipstick, clothes, accessories, even dark circles, give timely praise or care.
In fact, there are many more, but they all have one thing in common, which is to use practical actions to convey to a girl that you care about her.
Girls generally have more emotions than boys, and they are also much more vulnerable because of their overflowing emotions.
So when they find that someone is not trying to get something from them, but really cares about her, her liking will soar involuntarily.
When we start to reduce our purpose and pay more sincere care, we will find that girls are not as difficult to contact as we imagined.
At that time, I am afraid that in her heart, we had already changed from a straight man who did not understand the style to a caring and warm man.
Will love be far behind?
Of course, this is not a panacea. Sometimes we will also have difficulty transmitting information due to different expression methods between the two parties, so that all efforts are in vain. no good.
Therefore, the way of expressing these emotions is also particularly important.
