It is said that it is easy to fall in love but difficult to stay together. Many boys have spent a lot of effort to catch up with the girl they like, but they have not been together for a long time before they part ways for various reasons. So how can we get along with the girl after we have caught up with her? How about being together for a long time?
1. Leave private space for each other
A paragraph A long-term relationship means giving each other love and freedom at the same time. If you don't give the other person personal space, it is likely that the relationship will become a burden to the other person.
Although the relationship between a couple can be said to be the most intimate relationship between people, such a relationship does not mean that they must occupy each other all the time. After all, even if you catch the girl you like, you and her are still two independent people, so you need to give each other appropriate private space.
For example, when a girl is shopping with her best friend, if you interfere or keep calling and sending messages, she will definitely feel uncomfortable. After all, when you are playing games or playing ball with your friends, you don’t want to be pestered by girls.
In fact, even if two lovers stick together too tightly, both parties will not be very comfortable.
2. Give the other party enough trust
Trust can be said to be the foundation of a long-term relationship. If you If you catch a girl you like but don't trust her, then even if the other person is fine, countless problems may arise from your suspicion. On the contrary, such a situation will also cause the other party to distrust you, and this vicious cycle will quickly destroy your relationship.
So only if you give the other party enough trust, the other party will give you corresponding trust back. After all, you are the person you actively pursue, and the trust you give to the other person is also an affirmation of your choice and judgment.
If you don’t even trust the person you actively pursue, how can you stay together for a long time?
Of course, it may happen that you trust the other person, but the other person does not. your situation. Don't feel unfair at this time, because human nature is inherently unable to completely trust another person. Some friends actually feel that they cannot completely trust another person. We must understand this and learn to trust. To the person we like, we can give first and give her confidence first.
For example, set your WeChat avatar and Moments background to her photo, declare her sovereignty, take her to meet your friends, and lead her to get to know your parents. These are all great ways to reassure her about you.
3. Give the other party appropriate tolerance
People will have shortcomings, and in the process of getting along, These shortcomings exposed will continue to be magnified.So when we chase a girl and want to be together for a long time, the last thing we have to do is to give the other party corresponding tolerance.
After all, liking may be a temporary passion, so the girl you chase may not be completely suitable for you. Therefore, you cannot expect the other party to understand all your thoughts. Everything is tacitly understood by you. You must know that there is no perfect fit for another person in the world.
Next, we must respect each other’s opinions. In a romantic relationship, boys tend to take the initiative and take the lead. But this does not mean that we can completely ignore girls' opinions. We must listen to each other's ideas and truly understand them, and be as satisfied as possible. This is tolerance.
True tolerance is to take the other person into consideration and know how to ask her. Finally, tolerate the other person's shortcomings and accept her imperfections. She may have different hobbies than you, she may like things that you hate, or she may have some pet peeves that you think are wrong. What you have to do is not to endure it, but to ignore it and accept it.
"Okay, you are right, I was wrong", "I don't care about you" and the like are not tolerant. You are actually reluctant to do so in your mentality, and you will definitely get tired in the long run. True tolerance means that you don't take these shortcomings seriously. You don't care. You have to give yourself positive psychological hints. You are working hard for a better relationship between the two people in the future, instead of being passive and swallowing it in the moment. Only in this way, You will become more and more harmonious.
