There are many ordinary boys around us. I can’t tell you what shortcomings they have. Of course, they don’t have anything particularly attractive. And then they never found a girlfriend. It seems that it is easy to become a friend of women without being regarded as a dating partner. Why can't ordinary boys find girlfriends?
1. Ordinary boys have no competitiveness
The reason why two people can be together must have something to do with each other. If a boy wants good looks but not good looks, academic qualifications but not academic qualifications, career but not career, emotional intelligence but not emotional intelligence, family background but not family background, why should girls like you? Are you trying to be honest? Is your salary low? Are you unmotivated? Don't you take a shower? Is your watch luminous?
When it comes to relationships, what you fear most is that a person doesn’t want anything from you, but just messes around with you, and wants to be with you shamelessly. Behind the huge sweet bubble, there must be something bigger. conspiracy. The reason why you like a girl must be because of a certain characteristic of this person that attracts you, and then you will be impulsive and curious about this person.
What is attractive to boys? To put it bluntly, the most intuitive manifestation is a boy's conversation, appearance, behavior, etc. These numerous personal values, although you don't have to cover them all, or even be particularly good. But at the very least, you must have a compelling value that attracts people from the first impression. And these are often what ordinary boys lack.
2. Ordinary boys will not attract girls
Even if some boys have good conditions, they will not attract girls. Competitiveness is often not liked by girls. Why? Because some boys don't like to say anything outrageous, and they won't take the initiative to create ambiguity. They are afraid that they will use too much force and be regarded as "bad conduct" by girls. They can only do everything silently. In the end, the girls are still confused. .
In an intimate relationship, girls hope to be "teased", including body and language. Such boys will always tease the girl's heartstrings accurately at the precise time and promote the relationship between the two. Individuals fall in love quickly. Even if they miss, these men will not be embarrassed and blame themselves, but will quickly change their targets.
Therefore, in the social interaction of intimate relationships, it is not about how much you give to girls, but whether you will attract the girl you like. So what should be done? For example:
Rather than trying your best to please girls, it is better to leave an anchor in the relationship and give the other party room to imagine and expect, thereby increasing the popularity of the next social interaction.
Rather than rushing back to someone’s house 24 hours a day, it’s better to say “Let’s stop talking now. I’m itchy and want to play the piano. I’ll record a demo for you later” when the conversation is getting heated;
Rather than like and comment on other people’s Moments, it’s better to use this skillShape your clothes well and send a sunny and handsome photo;
Instead of speculating about the other person’s life every day, it is better to send a sentence when the other person is cold, “I recently posted a travel video I cut it into a vlog, please give me your opinions."...
The purpose of socializing with others is not to pester them to tell them "how much I like you", but to It is to think carefully about "what unique values ??you have that make the other party interested."
But having said that, in social relationships, whether you are a man or a woman, even if you like the other person first, it is still a two-way choice. Process, if the other person has been in a low-heat state for a long time, then there is no need for you to hang yourself from a tree.
She is enthusiastic about you, and you should give more feedback appropriately. On the contrary, if she makes you feel unhappy, you have every right to stop the loss and change the target in time.
Therefore, the reason why many ordinary boys cannot find girlfriends can only mean that "you are not bad, but you are quite boring." If you want to make the girls around you interested in you, either you have Sufficient personal value as support, or you have to learn to be an interesting person.
