Question:
Hello teacher, I had a good chat with the girl in the early days, but mostly I took the initiative to find her and coax her to please her, because at the beginning I It seemed that this was very effective. She was very happy and willing to talk more, but slowly I found that the relationship could not progress. She even became a little cold and always ignored me. How to remedy this situation?
Answer:
Hello brother, look at your description You were initially attracted to this girl. But there is a problem with the way you chat with her. At the same time, you are also aware of this problem. Although being nice to a girl can make her feel happy chatting and interacting with you, just being nice to her will never make you successful. Chase her.
The fact that you don’t realize this until a girl shows some affection towards you and ignores you means that you may not understand from the beginning why you can’t catch up with the girl you like just by being nice to her.
Being nice to her will only make girls like you, but will not make girls fall in love with you.
“Checking him means that you have been around her, it means that your life is centered on her, it means that you have to reply to the messages she sends in seconds, and maybe you have to worry about it. She pays for her unhappiness, and she has to be a payer when we go out to meet, etc...
This kind of behavior will make the girl sure about you. She will not worry about you running away, let alone you ignoring you. She, go find another girl. All of this will cause the girl to lose the desire to explore you and make you lose the challenge to her. When she needs you, you are always there. When she doesn’t need you, she will put you aside, even if you If you take the initiative to find her, she may not be bothered.
Eventually, she will even be with other more challenging and attractive men, and you will become her Spare tire.
If you want a girl to fall in love with you, you need to make her devote herself to you, make her circle around you, make her respond to you instantly, and make you dominate her. As for the method, read on:
Method 1: Control the frequency of contacting her and her response attitude, and change your image of kneeling and licking
Change the habit of proactive greetings from one day to one week twice or once. You need to make a girl realize that your life does not revolve around her alone. You have your own things to be busy with.
Maintain a friendly but nonchalant attitude. Being friendly is to avoid damaging the original goodwill, and being indifferent is to completely change the impression of kneeling and licking.
Because but when we maintain this frequency of contact and don’t talk to her so frequently, the girl will think: Why doesn’t he come to chat with me?
Then, she is likely to Will come to you proactively.
Method 2: Adjust your posture and learn to suppress her appropriately during chat
Half a month later,In the process of chatting with her, we can suppress her appropriately.
For example:
For example, when a girl catches a cold, we can first express her concern: Is your cold better?
She replied: Yes, much better.
At this time, we first cared about her twice and said to her: Take care of your body. You know, don’t make me feel bad. She will definitely say: Oh, you have also learned to care about others~Why do you feel bad? (Because? She had no caring attitude before, but now she expresses concern. This contrasting impression will rekindle her interest and goodwill)
At the critical moment, we can suppress it and say: Don’t think too much, I feel sorry for that doctor. When that doctor gives you an infusion, he will rarely be frightened by your yelling and smiling face.
That is suppression. Appropriate suppression can allow you to regain the challenge and make girls find chatting with you interesting and emotional.
After these two steps, a month later, I believe your image of kneeling and licking will change. At this time, chasing her again will be more effective.
