Although cold violence in love does not hurt the other party like physical violence, in essence, it will cause spiritual and psychological violation and harm to the other party. Such harm is definitely not inferior to physical violence, and is even more terrifying.
1. How terrible is cold violence
Most people who suffer from cold violence are withdrawn They tend to have a strong sense of inferiority and a strong sense of self-protection. When they encounter difficulties, they always think of killing everything with time and using cold violence to solve these problems.
If you are with someone every day, repeating the same things every day, and you have passed the freshness period, you will lose your passion. Slowly, you will start to control each other and hate each other. At this time, the other party will always think about how to get rid of your mental constraints and give yourself an ideal space. When encountering problems, I am used to using cold violence to solve them.
The most common form is to always try to escape when encountering problems, instead of arguing head-on; choosing to remain silent and ignore your existence, choosing to accumulate all the problems, and not wanting to spend more energy to deal with these feelings on the problem.
Problems will also cause irreparable damage to the other party over time!
2. How to solve cold violence in love
Although cold violence in love is sometimes not caused intentionally, but is a subconscious behavior, it may be a little related to the original family in childhood, and it is a habit developed over time. A habit, an action that will be subconsciously reflected when encountering similar things. It's like getting angry with your parents and ignoring them, waiting for your parents to find out and comfort you. So at this time, you can sit down and have a good talk with your partner. Cold treatment will make you feel uncomfortable. I hope that if there is a conflict, you can talk it out and both parties can solve it together.
Another situation is when you are planning the other person’s future, and the other person’s future does not include you. If you are in this state for a long time, you will start to rely on the other person, but your behavior , in the eyes of the other party, it is a kind of deforming pressure. Therefore, in order to escape this pressure, the other party will choose to treat you with cold violence.
This is used to force you to choose to break up with yourself, because in this way the other party can evade responsibility and blame all problems on you.
Therefore, when encountering a cold and violent breakup in love: First of all, we must calm down our mentality and not open our mouth when communicating. It is an angry tone of questioning and accusation.
Instead, you need to calm down your emotions and stand from a neutral perspective. Not only analyze your shortcomings, but also show a better way of handling it, so that the other party can feel that you are sincere and want to solve this problem. question.
Then you have to take the initiative to keep a distance from the other person to make the other person feel that they cannot control you. Only in this way will the other person feel that the previous feeling of controlling the relationship is an illusion.
The other party will take the initiative to end the cold violence in order to confirm this.
