2018 is coming to an end soon. I believe that many single brothers are also forced by their parents to go on blind dates.
Blind date is actually a way to get to know girls and get out of singles quickly.
And the chance of meeting a high-quality girl in a blind date is not small. So how should we pursue the high-quality girl we like in a blind date, and how can we further develop with her after the blind date?
p>1. Make full use of the natural sense of connection
The circle of blind dates is so large, and they are basically introduced by relatives at home. , so we will more or less have some direct or indirect contact with the person we are dating. In this case, we must make full use of this contact for further development.
For example:
While chatting with my blind date, I suddenly discovered, “It turns out we are alumni of the same school!” “What year are you from? Maybe we are in the same grade. Oh.”
This kind of connection can make us and our blind date less strangers from the beginning, and can save us a lot of steps when pursuing our blind date.
Therefore, if we want to tap into this natural sense of connection, we must first do our homework and learn about the girl from the introducer. The more detailed the information, the better.
2. Explore other senses of connection
Other senses of connection refer to the things we have in common in personality, experience, and hobbies in addition to social relationships and natural relationships such as classmates and classmates. point.
"Hey, it turns out you like to eat mustard!"
Hobbies like this with the same taste are a way for you to feel connected. In terms of shared hobbies, the more niche your and her hobbies are, the stronger the resonance between you, the more topics you can talk about, and the more goodwill you can build initially.
For example, many people can’t stand the rush of mustard. She likes to eat it, but her friends find it strange and stay away from it. But today she met you, a boy who loves eating mustard as much as she does. It was like the feeling of suddenly meeting a soulmate after being lonely for many years.
With this sense of connection, we will have a lot of common topics with the girls we are dating, and it will be much easier to chat in the future.
Of course, just doing this is just the beginning.
The next step is to determine whether this young lady is attracted to you and is interested in you. This is the prerequisite for further development with your blind date. Otherwise, you will happily say a lot of things to her. , as a result, this young lady has no trouble in her heart, and is even a little annoyed. Isn’t this extremely stupid?
When the other party treats you If you are interested, just go ahead and chat, and do follow-up relationship upgrades to get twice the result with half the effort.
So how to judge that she is interested in you?
1. Look at her attitude towards you
Has she taken the initiative to chat with you and is she interested in your Moments? There are no likes and comments, and whether the tone of voice is soft or gentle when chatting, these are all indicators of interest.
A girl who is interested in you will definitely pay attention to your updates. She may not necessarily leave a mark on every post, but at least she will definitely post some interesting content in order to convey her attitude to you. Like and comment. You posted ten or eight posts on Moments, don't leave comments, and don't even like them. This means that she has a general feeling for you.
If a girl is not interested in you, and you talk to her, her tone will either be very polite, for example, she will say "hello" in a client-like tone.
Or she is very cold. Even if a boy is good at finding topics, she will create closed topics to be a chat terminator. For example, a boy told a very interesting story, and the girl said: This is so, you have nothing to say.
2. Invite a second meeting
For a couple who have already met each other, if they have a good impression of each other, it is normal to meet for a second time. .
If she directly refuses your invitation or makes excuses, such as "There are too many things going on at the end of the year, I'm afraid we won't be able to meet you/The weather is not suitable for going out recently." That means she is not interested.
What should you do if you determine that a girl is not interested in you?
If you are determined to pursue her, then use other methods to re-establish attraction to her.
It is said that some brothers will make a mistake when they find that a girl does not like them: ask the introducer for help.
"Auntie, that girl is cold to me, but I think she is quite nice. What do you think I should do?"
This is absolutely not allowed to happen. !
If the introducer is willing to help, he will annoy the girl with questions. When she knows what you mean, she will attribute her anger to you and think that you are stalking her, causing her to directly sentence you to death and cut off the opportunity to rebuild attraction.
After confirming that a girl is interested in you, you can start to steadily improve the relationship after the blind date. Just follow the chatting skills and attraction-building skills we usually share with you step by step.
3. Play hard to get
It cannot be said that just because you have a crush on a girl, you can respond to her every request , I will always be there if I have an appointment, and I will accompany you if I have a chat.
Maintaining a strong interest in a girl will not speed up the development of you and her. On the contrary, it will quickly overdraw everyone's enthusiasm and interest, and soon you will have nothing to talk about.
Occasionally cut off the chat actively, and occasionally refuseHer invitations were all innocuous.
Doing this can let her see that you are not a man who indulges in her women all day long, but that you have work to be busy with and friends to hang out with. Seeing that you have a normal life and social value will make your favorable impression more stable.
But you can’t reject too often. If you reject a girl twice in a row, she may think that you really don’t want to continue with her and won’t give you a third chance.
If these techniques can be mastered skillfully, they will not only be useful for girls you meet on blind dates. Girls you meet through any other means can refer to these ideas to help you easily go from stranger to familiarity to intimacy with her.
