Question:
I just met a girl. I had a good chat with her, but within a few days of chatting, she suddenly became cold. I thought she was right. I wasn't interested, and I wanted to give up. But a few days later, she took the initiative to chat with me enthusiastically. What should I do when faced with such a girl who is hot and cold at times?
Answer:
First of all, you must know that the reason why a girl is hot and cold towards you is because your chat is too boring and insipid. It didn't attract any girls.
If you want to change this kind of county magistrate, you must first control your desire to chat with her, then do your own thing, calm down your mentality, and then chat with her again. , and add the following techniques to the chat:
1. Push and pull
Why suspense movies are so attractive? In fact, they also use the push-pull method, by first creating pressure and then releasing it. The plot will relieve your stress.
Therefore, when chatting with girls, we can also use the push-pull method to mobilize girls' emotions. But when pushing and pulling, "push" is the scale that must be mastered. When pushing, you can't make the other person really angry by making a personal attack on her. When pulling, as opposed to pushing, you can't completely make her feel like you're trying to please her.
For example:
Male: I saw your back today, you are so beautiful (pull)
Female: Of course! (tsundere, feels good after being praised)
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Male: It’s a pity that the front looks like this (recommended)
Female: Do you want to die? (Emotion changes from joy to anger)
Male: The front looks better. On the contrary, the back view is defective (pull)
Pushing is telling the girl that you dislike her and are dissatisfied with her.
La is telling the girl that you appreciate her.
Such a push-pull process will not make the girl feel bad about herself, but you are activating the atmosphere between you. When the chatting atmosphere is in place, even if you don't look for topics, the girl will take the initiative to find topics to chat with you, and naturally there will be no hot and cold situations.
2. Misinterpretation
It can be said that the things that happen to us every day are ordinary, but At this time, as long as you deliberately misinterpret the girl's meaning, it can be turned into a large-scale TV series.
For example:
(A girl accidentally bumped into you)
Male: What are you doing? If you don’t get it, just force it, right?
< p> Female: I was not careful!Male: I knew you had been plotting against me for a long time! You are greedy for my body!
Female: I was just careless!
Male: Stop talking, I am not a casual person, I am very reserved
Female: I didn’t touch you on purpose
Male: Do you want to be right? I'm responsible
Girl: Oh my god, how can you be responsible?
Intentional misunderstanding is to deliberately misrepresent the girl's intentions, and achieve the effect of ridicule by misinterpreting the other party's meaning. Let the girl know that you are deliberately joking with her without saying anything.
3. Ridicule
For example:
1. Why am I so good? , I really want to be less perfect, it’s so annoying.
2. Sometimes you really have to put a QR code on your body, otherwise every time you meet a girl, you have to take out your phone and scan it for them, which is really annoying.
Narcissism often reflects a person's degree of acceptance of himself, which indirectly indicates your degree of self-confidence.
In life, we don’t think that a man who says something like “A handsome guy as cute and charming as me” is really narcissistic. Instead, we think that he is making fun of himself, stirring up the atmosphere, and teasing you. laugh.
It is much easier to tease ourselves than to tease girls, because we know ourselves better, and there is nothing wrong with teasing ourselves.
But be careful, be self-proclaimed and narcissistic as much as possible, and don’t tease the girl about her shortcomings, otherwise she will probably ignore you while you are chatting.
4. Flirting
If you only joke with girls every day and do not take the initiative to upgrade the relationship, it will not last long. The relationship will gradually become hot and cold, so flirting is also a very important part:
Example:
Man: Your lipstick today is really special< /p>
Female: Yes, does this color look good?
Male: Then I have to try the taste to know (a pun, implying that the girl wants to kiss her)
< p> Female: Get lost~Girls are animals controlled by emotions. Chatting like this caused her to have mood swings. Will she still ignore you?
