Aloof girls always give people the feeling that it is difficult to get close to them, so they all think that aloof girls are difficult to pursue. But this is not the case. As long as you can get into her heart, she will still become active and easy to chase. You just need to master certain skills.
Below, the editor will give you 3 tips to make aloof girls become proactive. Let’s take a look.
1. Provide her with motivation to chat
Most boys are chatting with her Girls always look like this when chatting:
“Hi, how are you.”
“What are you doing?”
“Where are you? ?"
"Didn't you go shopping today?"
"Come and talk to me for a while."
"Of course, you may not be talking about this. The words are exactly the same, but the feeling is also similar, that is, he always initiates unilateral "consultation" to girls. In such a conversation, let alone cold girls, even some enthusiastic girls are not interested in chatting with you anymore.
Talking to a girl like this can give her the motivation to stick with you and say a few more words to you. Do you want to hope that she will come to you next time?
Therefore, when chatting with girls, especially girls who are aloof, we must provide her with some motivation for chatting in our chat topics. These motivations can be conversation topics. It could be emotional value, it could be showing her your value. In short, you need to let her have something to say after seeing what you said, and she won't find it boring to continue chatting with you.
For example, "Didn't you go shopping today?" You can say it in this way: "It's so lively over there at XX today, did you go shopping?".
"I heard that XX is very lively" is to provide girls with information, and then asking "Have you gone shopping?" is an emotional provocation to girls (equivalent to telling girls that if you haven't gone, If you go shopping, you will miss out on the excitement and suffer losses).
Providing information and emotional stimulation will obviously make a girl more willing to continue chatting with you than simply asking her if she has gone shopping.
The purpose of chatting with a cold girl is to increase this kind of exchange behavior. Asking and providing will make her more motivated to continue chatting with you and no longer be so cold.
2. Learn to leave blank space
Because cold girls speak normally There are very few of them, so don’t talk thoroughly about the topic every time, but learn to leave blank spaces.
Chatting with aloof girlsIt's just like eating. Every time you eat until you are very full, or even full, you will lose any interest in food for a long time after eating. Even the delicacies of mountains and seas will smell like ordinary food at this time.
But if you only eat six to seven cents full, you will have a strong desire to continue looking for food. The state of chatting with girls is similar.
You can find a reason to end the chat temporarily at a critical moment on a topic, or you can find a new topic that interests her when the chat ends.
For example:
"Good night. By the way, I found the gadget you mentioned last time. It's gone!"
"Ah, tell me where it is."
"Go to sleep first, and I'll tell you when you get up tomorrow."
"That's it. Don't talk too much at once, leave room for her imagination and curiosity, so that aloof girls can be interested and have more reasons to come to you.
3. Counterattack appropriately
When chasing a cold girl, if something happens If everything goes her way, she will only appear colder. We must learn to fight back at the appropriate time and let her have emotional ups and downs so that she can take the initiative.
For example, if she comes over to accuse you and says: "You haven't talked to me all day, tell me, which girl did you flirt with again?" The so-called "good" man will definitely apologize to the girl at this time. Sincerely, this frightened attitude obviously means you have done something wrong. Girls believe you. Even if she really believes you, she is kind if she doesn't take the opportunity to blackmail you once.
A person who is good at teasing will actually say this at this time: "Don't dare, don't dare, with your temper, I still want to live for two more days. If you tease others, do you think you will die not fast enough?" Or "It's over, you found out. In that case, I won't hide it. I flirted with a lot of young ladies today, and all of them are gentler and prettier than you."
The blind obedience of a "good" man This often results in the continued decline of one's own status and the elevation of girls' status, making girls become more and more aloof.
Appropriate bickering and counterattack can stimulate a girl's emotions and make her find you more interesting; at the same time, it can also adjust the balance of the positions of both parties, allowing her to take off her cold coat and take the initiative to come to you. you.
