Marriage is something that requires caution. Not only do you have to consider your three views, but also your material, and even your age. So what is the appropriate age for a person to get married?
In fact, it is difficult to have a unified answer to the matter of marriage in the face of different situations. The following aspects For your reference:
1. There is no right age, but you meet the right person
If you are the kind of love supremacist, you can try to meet the right person If you insist, then think carefully:
There is a limit to the shelf life of self-improvement and youth. If you want to get married, it is best to set an age limit (such as before 30 or 35) and actively look for a partner before this age. ;
Actively contact and understand each other’s plans, character and wishes
If you meet someone you really like, regardless of age, you must take the initiative to understand and influence the hint The progress of the relationship and knowing how to cherish the relationship.
It is ideal to meet someone you really like at the most beautiful age and then get married, but these people need a lot of luck in addition to taking the initiative.
2. Get a rough idea of ??the average marriage age in your city (including the circle of people around you), and then count forward. About 3 years is generally the age at which one can find a partner based on marriage. (Satisfies quite a few situations)
Of course, there are several indicators that can be quantified (the following are approximate data, do not need to be precise, only for reference), such as:
Urban vs. rural: If you get married at the age of 28 in the city, then you need to start looking for a partner at least at the age of 25; similarly, in the countryside, you should start looking for a partner at the age of 20 or even earlier; (remember to automatically reduce the age of 3 years)
Big cities vs. fourth-tier cities Following cities: 29 vs 26.
Boys vs girls: Girls should be no more than 28, boys should be no more than 35.
High education (bachelor degree or above) vs below bachelor degree: around 27 years old vs around 24 years old.
What I am talking about here is that except for the vast majority of the non-rich first generation and rich second generation, the vast majority of boys and girls from ordinary backgrounds. These two types of people will not do this for now.
But if you are not one of the above three, but are from a relatively poor family, then the best marriage advice for you is to 'transcend' the above constraints on the average age of marriage. .
The best strategy for you is:
Create a "personality" in advance, act first, and find a (marriage) partner early.
For example, when I was in school (at least before graduating from college), when I was still young and boys and girls were not so interested in relationships,When you have more experience and have a certain amount of innocent illusions. At this time, due to "youth covers all ugliness", youth is a fig leaf for both boys and girls.
Taking advantage of the youthful feeling, on the one hand, you can create your own image, control your diet appropriately, and spend appropriate money to make yourself look at least cleaner and tidier than your peers; build up your emotional intelligence, and understand the psychology of girls. , do a little research and study to improve yourself, then you will be better than at least 80% of your peers in dealing with girls; find the right target group.
Of course, if you have the conditions, it is best to find someone you like each other. If you can't attract them or you can't achieve it, it will be relatively balanced here. .
If you are not pushed away by society and there is a big distance between your family backgrounds, you can give it your all and chase after the person you like. Because girls who are innocent and yearn for pure love are relatively easy to chase.
Find out one of your hard skills and develop them.
Girls in school actually have a diversified tendency towards boys’ ‘aesthetics and admiration’ compared to the social level.
If you are good at studying, some people like to be top academics. Try to show that you are serious and motivated; );
If you have good leadership skills and strong social skills, choose the president or cadre of the student union (girls tend to have a relative admiration for "small power", otherwise so many girls will easily fall in love with military training instructors) );
If you have strong literary and artistic expression ability, then participate in school activities or individual competitions. If you show your face in front of others, there will be no shortage of opposite sexes who will come to you;
If you miss it During this period, you will compete with more than just your peers. When the time comes, you will have to compete with everything in terms of family background, social status, money and material ability.
Talent is worthless if it cannot be realized, and ideals are nothing if they cannot be realized. I hope that before accepting the beating of reality, I hope that I can recognize and accept myself, and preparation in advance is the most important.
3. Regarding childbirth, it depends on what type of person you are
Although it is basic in theory Anyone of legal age is suitable for marriage. But generally speaking, except for the kind of really pure love, marriage is generally for the purpose of stabilizing the relationship between partner and children.
First of all, if you are that kind of DINK.
It’s either a temporary thing, or I really feel like I don’t like children and I’m determined not to have them. In fact, as long as you find a partner who is also a DINK, it doesn't matter how old you are when you get married. After all, childbearing age is not the issue, but fitness is.
In this case, the spiritual and physical loyalty to the partner will be higher. After all, children are generallyIt is a bond between middle and later stages. Don’t put too much faith in personal charm in this regard.
Secondly, if you want children. So the best situation is (let’s be realistic here, not to mention the increasingly unreliable Internet comments) for boys before the age of 40. Girls before 38 years old.
You read that right, basically the lower limit. It's really not good to be older than this.
The above major aspects can be used as a comprehensive reference. Everyone has experience and maturity process, so it does not mean that the smaller the better, after all, the mind is unstable. The best way is to actively search for things along the way. Take this as a serious matter when you are young, so that you will not be very passive later on.
