I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a while, and we have also talked about marriage, but my girlfriend has to buy a house before she can marry me. What should I do in this situation?
Should you buy a house before marriage? Should the man or the woman pay for the house? Will your girlfriend leave you if you take out a loan to buy a house? These thought-provoking questions have always troubled men preparing to get married.
A certain website once conducted a survey. 68% of netizens believe that you must buy a house before getting married, 22% of netizens believe that it depends on the situation, and only 10% of netizens believe that you can get married if you rent a house. It can be seen that now a house has become a necessity for marriage, and it is best to buy a house before marriage.
1. Reasons for buying a house before marriage
As long as you live with others, you must eat, drink, sleep, and be satisfied. The requirement for sleeping is a house of your own. Just like the first four, they are ultimately owned by you.
If you have been living in a rental house, you will not be able to enjoy many resources. For example, it will be a problem for your children to go to school in the future. If you live in your hometown, your children will not be able to enjoy the educational resources in the city. There is a big gap between the children in the same age, and if you don't see your children for a long time, it will also have a bad impact on the children.
Although the cost of renting a house is relatively low now, the rent has been on a rising trend. In fact, a lot of money is spent on the house every month. Although buying a house is expensive now, from the perspective of later planning, it is the safest investment and can be liquidated, sublet, etc. at any time.
If you don’t have a house before getting married, you will lose face in front of your friends, and your parents will not easily agree to marry someone who does not have a house.
2. How to talk about buying a house with your girlfriend
Confirm sincerity and think in other people’s shoes
Confirm whether your girlfriend really loves you or is just pursuing material things. After confirming the sincerity of both parties, you can think from the other party's perspective or directly communicate with the other party as to why you must insist on buying a house before getting married. If she insists on buying a house because of family pressure, this can be communicated to both parents of her girlfriend.
Should a man or a woman buy a house?
The decision to buy a house involves the issue of financing. The concept of men buying houses has always been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. But times are changing, and women have risen to hold up half the sky. Marriage is not about someone taking advantage of someone, but the beginning of two people working together for a lifetime, sharing risks and benefits. The most appropriate way is for two people to pay the full amount together or pay the down payment and repay the mortgage together, and write their names on the house book. If there are differences in ability and who has more to share and who has less to share, then a notarization of the property shares should be done.
Make a confession of your soul without reservation. If you can reach a high degree of agreement in the end, it means that your two values ????have a lot of resonance, and the house will not be a problem; if your values ????are inconsistent and you cannot be honest with each other, the marriage may not be the same. It is difficult to go far. In this case, it is better to detect it early than late.
