I have been chasing a girl for a long time. When I first came into contact, I felt that the other girl seemed to have a crush on me, but as time went by, I slowly found that the girl began to alienate me intentionally or unintentionally. What is the reason?
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In fact, it is some of your behaviors in the process of communicating with her that silently lose points in her heart. Let’s learn about these 4 behaviors that will reduce your value in the eyes of girls and see if you have stepped on the wrong side!
1. Expose your sense of need
In relationships, you must learn to control your needs and know how to create attraction.
What is the inability to control the sense of need:
A girl tells her everything without even asking you a polite question. She wishes she could tell her everything about the kindergarten and analyze herself. You are so clean that you completely lose the sense of mystery in front of her!
Replying to chat instantly and sending a "little essay" to a girl will only make the girl think that you have nothing to do. If she sends one message, you will reply to a dozen. Even lengthy "little compositions" will only move you.
If you care too much about girls’ emotions and thoughts, you will become cautious. You will buy expensive gifts, be on call, and have no bottom line to please girls. All of a sudden, your sense of need will be exposed, and you are simply a dog-licker. Self-cultivation!
So if you like someone, you must first know how to invest in yourself and create attraction. Let her spend time exploring you and getting to know you, and this is the process of slowly being attracted to you.
2. Habitually denying and belittling the other party
When getting along with the opposite sex, do not overly elevate girls and put them down yourself, but you can’t belittle women to show your own worth!
Many men in real life say these words:
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"No, you are too stupid!"
"You are wrong, it should be like this..."
This is not just a sign of low emotional intelligence, in fact Strong on the outside but capable on the inside, constantly denying others is also a way to cover up his own incompetence. He is very afraid that others will see his humble self inside.
A man who only knows how to express himself is an arbitrary and authoritarian man. No girl likes to be with someone who does not respect women and often criticizes them. They are more eager to express their feelings and get a positive response.
A man who is good at listening and knows how to appreciate and affirm others is a truly mature and charming man.
3. All talk but no action
People who are responsible for every word they say, It is the embodiment of true emotional intelligence and responsibility.
Always saying "I was wrong and I will change it in the future", but after the girl forgives you, she still goes her own way;
Always says "I won't marry you unless I am", but never cares about the girl's feelings and Demand;
Slowly, a girl will become more and more disappointed with you, thinking that you are only good at oral pleasure. When she has accumulated enough disappointment, she will no longer choose to look back...
Sweet words may capture a girl’s heart in a short time, but if you want a girl’s trust and long-term relationship, you still have to combine your words with your actions.
In fact, it’s not just boys, but girls too. We all know that judging whether a person is reliable is not based on what he says, but on how he acts. People who only talk but don't do anything are really worthless.
4. No sense of proportion and boundaries
In order to show their "masculine charm", some boys He often uses foul language and lewd accents, makes inappropriate jokes, and performs inappropriate actions.
There is no denying that physical contact can test a girl’s liking for you. But all this must be based on the girl having a favorable impression of you of more than 8 points, commonly known as the "final kick".
Otherwise, girls who originally have a slight affection for you will simply regard this behavior as "hands-on" and "hooliganism", and they will stay away from you.
Therefore, when getting along with girls, you must know what kind of relationship to do what kind of things!
