Girls are more detail-oriented and emotional, so when you are chatting with a girl you like, some usually insignificant and bad language habits may seriously affect your relationship with the girl.
Below, I will share with you some taboos that boys must know about chatting with girls they like.
1. Nambling endlessly
“Beauty, why don’t you go out to play today?”
“I don’t want to. "Go out." /p>
"Oh, that's it. It seems like you are always at home every time I chat with you, and you will grow mushrooms if you don't go out."
"It's okay."
"How can that be done? How can a beauty like you stay at home all the time. You are so $#$^...so I say #%##. The weather has been getting colder and colder recently. If you don't go out for a walk, you will go out more. ."
"I just want to spend the whole day watching dramas at home, don't you? Do you have to force me to curse because of your verbosity?"
Many boys are chatting with their girls, especially The girl I like is really too "eloquent", nagging her endlessly, telling her something is like brainwashing her, especially when the girl refuses I like to try my best to persuade them after my proposal/invitation.
Talking without focus or order, or nagging on about topics the other party doesn’t care about/don’t want to talk about, are all taboos in chatting and can easily offend people.
We need to improve our relationship with the girl we like. In fact, no matter how much we say these words, they are meaningless. This kind of rambling way of speaking will annoy girls. It's really better not to talk than to talk meaningless nonsense.
Therefore, it is very important to ensure that every word we say can help us gain favor in girls' hearts or pave the way for the future.
To avoid verbosity and speak effectively, we should pay attention to three key points:
1. Observe words and expressions
Like the example of girls coming one after another Answering a boy's long story with short sentences shows that the girl really doesn't want to answer what the boy says. However, the boy not only doesn't notice this, but also presses forward, which naturally only arouses the girl's anger.
If you find that a girl is really not interested in our topic, you should stop immediately and change the topic.
2. Speak long words separately
The human brain is not a computer. There is a buffer period when we receive information. If you talk too much in one breath, the listeners will often After listening to the second half, I forgot the first half.
A pause in the middle will not only help our chat partner accept our speech more easily, but also give her the opportunity to ask questions, increasing interactivity.
3. Extract central sentences
As long as a sentence can still express its original meaning after being compressed, you should try to use compressed short sentences. In this way, the key points and core ideas we want to express will be more easily highlighted and captured by our chat partners.
We can also do some "limited exercises" to get rid of this habit:
When we want to tell a friend something, we should rehearse it in our mind in advance and give it to our friends first. Set a time yourself, such as "within 5 seconds", "within 10 seconds" or "within 30 seconds", and then we will arrange the wording to ensure that things can be expressed clearly and at a normal speaking speed within the set time. After practicing many times, you can develop a good habit of being concise and effective in every sentence.
2. Too immoral and always making dirty jokes
Men don’t Bad women are not loved. Some people misinterpret this sentence and act too greasy when chatting with the girl they like, but they think they are humorous and have jumped out of the rigid chatting way of honest men.
For example:
Girls: “Are you there?”
Boys: “I’m here, what’s important for you?”
< p> Girl: "...Um, I just want to ask if you can take me with you to work this morning. I have my car for its annual inspection."Boy: "Of course there is no problem, but how do you thank me? Well, do you want to give me a smile first?"
Girl: "You are crazy."
Or...
Girl: "Do you have time tonight? ?"
Boy: "Yes, wait, why are you asking about night? I understand, are you going to follow me..."
Girl: "Crazy"
p>This kind of unruly speaking style that always makes fun of girls is definitely not humorous. This is called being garrulous. If boys always make such jokes with girls, then girls will never dare to talk to you again.
If we really want to make some ambiguous jokes with girls, we can completely change the way!
For example, if a girl asks a boy if he is free tonight? The boy can only say the first half of the sentence: "Yes, wait, why are you asking about night?"
After the girl said her purpose: "Well, some of my friends are going to sing tonight, and I asked you if you want to come."
The boy suddenly realized: "Oh, it turns out it is Like this~ I almost got it wrong, but luckily it’s not what I thought. OK, I agreed to this.” No matter how stupid a girl is at this time, she will guess what you mean by wrong thinking. If you don't say anything so explicit and are subtle, girls will think that although you are not serious, you will not do anything excessive, it is still quite fun, and getting along with you will not be so lifeless.
If she is willing to make some unusual jokes with you, she will take the initiative to help you say what you haven't said.
In fact, when chatting with girls about some "indecent" topics, the core thinking is these four words, "hidden but not revealed."
We need to hide our purpose, use some sideline words to hint girls to think in that direction, and then say it out loud, which is equivalent to girls taking the initiative to start the topic.
We only need to follow her words and then we can have a "serious" chat, and girls won't think that we speak in an explicit way and look like hooligans.
