It is normal for blind dates to be unsuccessful, but some people have been on blind dates many times, only to find that there is no one who has a good impression of them, and they keep failing. In this case, they must find problems within themselves, otherwise It’s useless no matter how many times you go on blind dates.
So what are the reasons why many blind dates have not been successful?
1. Self-esteem Too strong
People with stronger self-esteem are actually more vulnerable. The more face-conscious a person is, the easier it is to be attacked. Therefore, everyone who is shameless is living a good life, but those who are strong are miserable.
The stronger a person’s self-esteem is, the less he can bear failure when going on a blind date. As we said at the beginning, it is normal for a blind date to be unsuccessful. According to our statistics, on average, each person needs to fail at least three times before he or she can have a successful relationship. There is no upper limit to the number of more excellent cases. There have been hundreds of failed blind dates over the past few years.
If your first unsuccessful blind date has dampened your self-confidence because of your excessive self-esteem, then you are likely to become one of those people who have failed hundreds of blind dates over the years.
2. Poor appearance and unwilling to take care of it
The four words “poor appearance” are actually dynamic. To put it simply, if If everyone wears no makeup, most of the men and women who can be said to be beautiful are in the entertainment industry, while the rest are average and pretty good, and not many are actually ugly. < /p>
There is no shame in using appearance to attract people, and whether a woman looks good or not determines her aesthetic level, because a woman herself is her best work.
If you really care about dressing yourself up. If you are not interested and don’t want to express yourself to others, then it’s strange that your blind date will be successful. As mentioned above, blind date is a pure appearance game.
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3. Serious literary and artistic complex
Artistic young women or artistic men are not suitable for blind dates, unless the person they are dating is also artistically inclined.
As I said before, blind dates are based on contrasting interests, so the probability of encountering unpleasant things during the blind date is very high. Many people will encounter unpleasant things when they first go on a blind date. Asking about salary and asking if you have a house and a car is extremely offensive.
But this kind of people are the mainstream in the dating industry. How can they get married without asking questions clearly? ?
So for literary men and women, if your fantasy is a romantic encounter and the beauty of love at first sight, then blind date is really not suitable.
4. No opinion
When you are on a blind date, you have no opinion at all. No matter how big or small you are, you leave it to the other party to choose, decide and handle. You are completely passive unless the other party happens to She is a grown-up woman, otherwise, the other person will soon find her boring. And even if the other party has a strong desire to control, they will also hope to fulfill your wishes: what do you want to do? Where do you want to go? If you don't have any opinion and are always "whatever", the other party will also find it boring.
5. Too purposeful
Although, people who choose blind dates Everyone is rushing to be single, but no matter how anxious you are, don't write the four words "I want to be single" on your face, go straight to the topic to express your purpose, or show your goodwill to the other person with excessive attentiveness, it is stupid. Behavior. Your excessive enthusiasm will scare the other person away and make the other person think that you are a terrible marriage maniac. He also likes to have preconceptions, and it is not a good habit to draw premature conclusions about a blind date. Don't place too much emphasis on first impressions, and don't rule out the entire date just because of a bad first impression. It's too early to draw conclusions now. Give the other person and yourself a chance to understand each other deeply.
You must know that blind date is a test of a person's quick reaction ability. How to naturally show your high value in a short period of time and quickly win the other person's favor is very important. And when you feel that the other person is not very suitable, you have to give the other person a step back, which also tests your emotional intelligence. In reality, the probability of falling in love at first sight is very low, so it is normal for a blind date to fail.
