Question:
Hello teacher, I like a girl who works in the same office building as me. I am on the sixth floor and she is on the fifth floor. We have known each other for a week.
This morning was the second time I chatted with her. I asked her on WeChat what she was doing, and she replied that she was busy. Then I said you are busy first, and then she replied with um and ended the chat. .
The same is true for our first chat. Chatting with her always gives me a feeling of indifference. How can I catch her in this situation?
Answer:
Hello brother, chasing girls is very particular about the right time and location. Because you work in the same place, you already have the right location. What you lack now is the right time.
To put it simply, the time when you chatted with her was very wrong.
Chatting with girls in the morning is very problematic, especially on working days, when both you and she may be working.
If you chat with her at this time, she will only treat you as an idle and unmotivated person.
Furthermore, it is also problematic for you to open the topic with "What are you doing?" This sentence is not only asking for value, but also what else can you do besides work during work hours in the morning?
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You and the girl have only known each other for a week. This is only the second time you have chatted, and you start to ask for value. This will only make the girl feel that chatting with you is not a good thing, because she needs to provide value, and you will continue to ask for value in the future (this is how questions and answers are formed).
When looking for a girl to chat, not only must there be a topic, but the core content of the topic must also provide value.
For example, you can go to chat with her when it is close to noon and you feel that the other person is finished. You can say: It is almost 12 o'clock and I don't know what to eat for lunch. I saw a newly opened so-and-so restaurant there, which seemed pretty good.
By starting a conversation like this, you are providing value. Maybe it will resonate with her, because she is also thinking about what to eat for lunch, and then you can recommend one to her, which will not only open up your chat, but also maybe have the opportunity to have lunch with her.
Therefore, when chatting with girls at the beginning, we should learn to provide value to girls instead of asking for value. Provide value and the girl will respond to your desire, and your mood will become higher. Asking for value will only make the girl ignore you.
It’s okay to chat with her at night, but you must learn to provide topic content and don’t ask what you are doing.
In the process of chasing girls and chatting, we can take the initiative to chat with girls, but you must have empathy. existBefore chatting with a girl, we should consider, what would we think if we were her?
But in fact, empathy is something that many boys are extremely lacking when chasing girls. Without this, girls You will think you are a straight man.
For example, some boys will think that a girl is cold, is it because the girl is introverted, or is it because she is slow to warm up? Therefore, he will be more proactive with the girl, send more messages, give gifts, and want to use her. His passion accelerated to catch up with the girl. But the result is that it brings a lot of emotional pressure to the girl, and the girl keeps escaping, which in turn accelerates the girl's resentment.
In the face of love, how can there be any introversion? The reason is just because you have not attracted her, and girls are not very interested in you. So learn to find your own problems and start with yourself. For example, find out whether the topic makes girls uninterested or for other reasons. This is a process of changing yourself and improving yourself.
