When chasing a girl, it may not be as difficult as many people imagine, but for some boys, it is not an easy task. If you don’t find the right method, you may not feel satisfied after a year or two of pursuing it. There is hope, but what should boys do when faced with this kind of relationship?
1. From passive to active
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When chasing a girl, there is no problem in paying for the girl. However, some boys will feel that the girl is too beautiful and they have some shortcomings that are not worthy of her, so they will continue to pay, even please and kneel down. Licking and other methods are used to try to win the favor of girls.
There is no problem in giving for love, but when you give gifts, you sacrifice your own elegance, posture, bottom line and even dignity. That is completely trapping yourself in a passive state of love.
All kinds of flattery will not improve your favorability in the girl's heart. It will only invisibly boost the girl's vanity, making her feel that she is very outstanding, and she will look down on you more and more.
The irony is that in this passive situation, the more boys pay, the more girls will look down on them, and naturally the more they chase, the less hope they see.
The fundamental reason that causes boys to fall into a passive situation is that they have too strong a sense of need in front of girls, just like singing. As soon as they open their voices, they will hit a high note, and then the sound will completely break or they will not be able to sing. .
Therefore, the first step to change from passive to active is to restrain your [sense of need] in front of girls.
2. Break the inherent prejudice
Some boys think: Chasing girls means throwing away money! I will spend the money If I spend time with a girl, she will slowly like me, it's just a matter of time.
Some boys think: Don’t girls just like warm men? I am gentle, considerate and tolerant of her without any bottom line. I will buy whatever she wants. I will coax her when she makes trouble. If I’m in a bad mood, I’ll give out red envelopes. I can always catch her, right?
Chasing girls is not a problem that can be solved by money and attitude. Inherent prejudices will only make you more and more frustrated on the way to chase girls. The less hope you see, the core point of chasing girls is to make girls like you!
Those who like you because of your money will also leave you because of your money, and like you because of your [warm-hearted] attitude She will also have doubts about love (your love for her) because of your angry words one day.
3. Guide girls to give
During the relationship, the way your girls get along is very important. The degree determines your future relationship development.
If a girl gets used to your blind devotion, then your relationship will reach a deadlock. She knows that you willShe has always been nice and even takes it for granted. (Just like the love parents have for their children, few children know how to be grateful from the beginning)
She won’t pay for you, she won’t put her thoughts on you, and she won’t fall in love with you. you.
She won’t remember your efforts, because she didn’t give anything, and people always don’t pay attention to things that are easily obtained.
Guiding a girl to give is the beginning of making her fall in love with you. When she discovers that she has given more and more [emotions] and [material] to you, and she will always think of you even in daily life. , it’s not far away from you being together.
