Chasing girls is actually a process of developing from strangers to lovers, and those boys who can successfully transition to this stage just know how to seize the opportunity. Below, the editor will teach you 3 tips on how to smoothly develop from strangers to lovers.
1. Optimize contact frequency
Strangers who want to develop into lovers must first The first step is to eliminate the sense of strangeness and let both parties become familiar with each other first. And this step is not as simple as "brush your sense of presence".
Although according to the exposure effect in psychology, people will indeed double their favorable impression of a person because they see him frequently, but if the frequency is too high, it will evolve into "overexposure", which will make them People are tired of it.
Therefore, if you want to get closer to a girl and eliminate the feeling of strangeness, the first thing you need to do is to control the frequency of your contact. Whether chatting or dating, it should not be too frequent in the early stages of a relationship.
It is recommended that you and the other party maintain a similar chat frequency and reply rhythm, and don't take the initiative to find her every time. And when chatting, when both parties are in a good mood, they can stop talking.
In addition to showing "you have something to do", she will also be looking forward to your next chat. Generally speaking, chatting should establish a positive emotional connection with the other party, and it should be more precise than too many.
2. Shape common experiences
We can mainly communicate with each other through anchoring or collusion. Establish a shallow sense of connection. The meaning of heart anchoring is simply to leave your exclusive impression in the other person's heart. It can be visual, auditory, or even your own "taste".
For example:
You can add your exclusive emoticon at the end of the chat;
You can set a cell phone ringtone with memory points;
Or use a perfume with a unique and not unpleasant smell...
In this way, girls will unconsciously think of you when they come into contact with these expressions, sounds, and smells.
Note that a good anchor must be universal as well as unique. It is best for girls to have access to these things in their lives, but not everyone will use them.
The next step is conspiracy. Collusion is an economic concept. When applied to relationships, it means accompanying your partner to do something "unforgettable" for her.
For example, when you are walking on the street and you see a girl stepping on a manhole cover, you can pat her three times and tell her that stepping on the manhole cover will bring you good luck, and you will also get good luck. ;
For another example, you go to eat barbecue, and you buy the order while going to the bathroom. When you come back and eat, you ask her if she has eaten "Ba"."King of Dinner", and then took her hand and left the restaurant.
Do you think she will think of you next time she passes by a manhole cover or a barbecue restaurant? This is the role of collusion. The best collusion is A little thing that only you and the girl know.
3. Express your true self
The principle of anchoring and collusion is to establish a shallow sense of connection through shaping shared experiences. This is like chatting about fun things. Although the process is fun, it is still a bit superficial.
In order to establish a deeper sense of connection, two people need to have "heart-to-heart communication."
Each of us will have a sensitive and fragile side, no matter how much you like it. As a girl, you can't maintain your ideal state in front of her 24 hours a day.
After two people have established a superficial sense of connection, you can appropriately let her see your sensitive and vulnerable side. , and at the same time, try to sense her emotions and respond to them with emotions.
The content of the chat can also transition from the original "interesting" to "careful".
You can talk about topics such as "remembering childhood", shared experiences between you, or even your past emotional history, etc.
